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How to Create a Collaborative Partnership with Your Kids

Raising Human Beings

Ross W Greene

I won't lie, I stopped reading parenting books about half way through my third pregnancy.  I was tired of hearing "experts" share their sure-fire ways of raising perfect little angel kids.  It was slightly depressing when the encouragement you get somewhere in the middle of the book fades about two days after you finish the book.  There is never real applicable ideas that are translatable to unique families and children. Well, for the most part, that is.

But then I was presented with this book, and for some reason, I said yes. I am so glad I did. If you are only going to read one parenting book, no matter the age of your child, or how many kids you have, you seriously need to pick up this one... like yesterday... here's why...




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Book Overview 

This is a parenting book that allows parents to not just be the disciplinarians in their kids' lives, but the guides who can show these young people how to be respectful, decision-making adults one day. While Dr. Ross Greene has a long-standing reputation with families who have more difficult behavior problems to work through, this particular book is for families who just want more help in making daily life less chaotic through building relationships where each member of the family knows how to solve problems and work at overcoming their own personal hurdles.  

Greene walks you, the parent, through his three steps in such a wonderfully easy way that all parents will feel confident implementing this style of parenting into their homes, no matter their unique situations. As Green says, "Parents have so much guidance being thrown at them that it would be understandable if you decided to just turn on the autopilot and glide with your instincts." And since he realizes that only leads to unhappy homes or serious discipline issues, he made this how-to full of examples, and answers so you will be confident with this process months after you finish reading the book. 

Personal Likes

Greene's style in gaining my trust at the beginning was nice.  Because it is so true, every counselor any more has the perfect solution to whatever issue you might be facing in the moment - too much yelling, sullen kids who won't tell you what is wrong, kids who are not listening at school, and so on and so on... but those are just symptoms of the actual issues. Greene addresses that point exactly.

He also gives corny phrases to use for the first few times you try his three step process. And he admits it's cheesy.  But he swears it works. It seems to be helping me, and it has helped many many people according to his articles online.  There is something about having an actual script to follow at first, and permission to feel dorky while being a parent that makes it easier to do... or maybe that's just me...?

Also there are a half dozen or so real questions at the end of each chapter to help clarify each step and different scenarios. So if you were not clear on something in the chapter, no worries he will address it.


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Personal Dislikes


Well, it's a parenting book. And it is very technical. So that means dry. For me that means slow reading... and I do not like slow reading.  But I understand that is par for the course, so it's a minor hit.

Also, as another way of explaining each step and how it works for different families, Greene uses scenario stories throughout... for me, I could have done without them. But I am sure other people will benefit greatly from them. All preference here. 




Reading List Rating


I am going to give this four and half hearts... it's not quite five, simply because it's a parenting book, and I won't know how wonderful it really is until I've had months to implement it.  But I highlighted it like crazy, and already feel more confident about approaching the issues at hand in my house. 






My Suggested Audience

All parents should read this book. It doesn't matter your faith, or your moral standings. It doesn't matter how old your kids are, or what discipline issues you might have... this book will help you build the kind of relationship parents hope for while they are anxiously waiting for their new little one to arrive and begin the journey of parenthood. Also, this is an excellent book for teachers of all kinds - if you work with kids, you should consider this book.




Check out my quick review on Goodreads


Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your ChildRaising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child by Ross W. Greene
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

There are a million parenting books out there... and I've only read a handful of them, to be honest. And most of the time they sound good while I'm reading them, but as soon as I put the book down it's out of my head. This one is not like that. Greene has put together a book that is so practical it sounds ludicrous, but I know that it will be a parenting technique I use for the rest of my life.

You see, Greene has put together a how-to for parents, knowing that so many parenting books promise to give a game plan, but never really give the nuts, and bolts of the plan - this time, Greene gives starter scripts. He gives word for word conversation starters to use with kids no matter their ages, and even goes so far as to guess what you will be thinking while you are using these starters.

Plus, at the end of each chapter he addresses tons of reader questions so that there are no questions by the time you reach the end of the book. The only question you will have is why didn't i read this book sooner!

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Amazing Quotes from Raising Human Beings:

  • "We've established that kids do well if they can, and that doing well is preferable, and that the key factor involved in doing well is skills, not motivation."  (location 3701 e-reader) This is the basis for much of Greene's process, and just internalizing these concepts helps with a parent's vantage in all situations. 
  • "Try not to worry about what other parents or the neighbors or your extended family is going to think. Try not to compare yourself to them or their children. Allowing yourself to be overcome with embarrassment or worry about what they think will only cloud your ability to see your kid for who he is."   (location 2369 e-reader)  Granted this kind of encouragement is typical in parenting books, but here, his tone throughout, helps to truly give you courage to try... and really trying is all he is asking... such an important point... try...




"force and power tend to bring out the worst in human beings, both younger and older..." #RaisingHumanBeings@Reading_List1




Do you feel overwhelmed with the challenges of parenthood? Would you like to have a script to try when you need to step in a really parent?  What if there was a way to work on the problems before they happen? Would you read a book if might help with those future hiccups?


I'd love to hear from you, please leave me a little note!

Marissa @ Reading List






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Thursday

The Cozy Reading Spot #156

Welcome to Cozy Reading Spot! 

This is your chance to share your posts, and then grab your favorite drink to curl up with and read other's posts.  You are welcome to share posts that tell us what has been on your heart, mind and bookshelves - yes that means just about anything goes.  As book lovers, we love to read, so share something for us to read today!




Community Freebie: August

This month freebie is for the parents out there who are getting ready for their kiddos to get back into the school routine.  It can be a hard shift back into routine for school compared to summer. For us that means that mornings need to be slightly more structured. 

If you are like me, then you might be into this month's freebie.  It's a super simply Morning Routine chart. In the link there will be four options in different colors. Two will be filled out, two will be blank so you can personalize it.  We will be putting these routines into paper protectors and using a dry-erase marker to cross off each step in the mornings. 

This is a freebie for the Cozy Reading Spot community. All you have to do is leave your email in the community banner that is at the top of the page, or use that annoying pop up.  You will receive a weekly email with a reminder of the link up. In that email will be the link to your freebie!  YAY!

Here's to calm start to the 2016 school year!

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Last Week's Features

Marissa's Favorite

My favorite link from last week was by Lisa from Syncopated Mama: 5 After 5, Summer Olympics Edition.  Even with the games over, it was fun to see her favorites!
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Most Popular

The most popular link from last week was by Michele from Living Our Days: The Holy Pursuit of Happiness. She shares a wonderful reflection and review of the book, The Happiness Dare by Jennifer Dukes Lee.
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This is an open link up, not just a book link up...

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  • I wish I didn't have to say this, but please keep it clean. I know books & posts can range the gamut on adult content, but please keep your posts and images clean for this one. 
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Saturday

One Paris Summer... A Sneak Peek

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Current book:

One Paris Summer

Denise Crover Swank



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Goodreads Summary:

Most teens dream of visiting the City of Lights, but it feels more like a nightmare for Sophie Brooks. She and her brother are sent to Paris to spend the summer with their father, who left home a year ago without any explanation. As if his sudden abandonment weren't betrayal enough, he's about to remarry, and they’re expected to play nice with his soon-to-be wife and stepdaughter. The stepdaughter, Camille, agrees to show them around the city, but she makes it clear that she will do everything in her power to make Sophie miserable.

Sophie could deal with all the pain and humiliation if only she could practice piano. Her dream is to become a pianist, and she was supposed to spend the summer preparing for a scholarship competition. Even though her father moved to Paris to pursue his own dream, he clearly doesn't support hers. His promise to provide her with a piano goes unfulfilled.

Still, no one is immune to Paris’s charm. After a few encounters with a gorgeous French boy, Sophie finds herself warming to the city, particularly when she discovers that he can help her practice piano. There’s just one hitch—he’s a friend of Camille’s, and Camille hates Sophie. While the summer Sophie dreaded promises to become best summer of her life, one person could ruin it all.



Sneak Peek:

"Mathieu glanced around and took a few steps to the right. Was that supposed to be some kind of hint? I considered going the opposite direction, but why go out of the way just to prove a point?" location 1800 (ereader)







Initial Thoughts

An adorably cute main character, Sophie took me with her on her summer adventure completely. I wasn't sure on this one when I picked it up, yet after only a few pages I was hooked. I had to know what would happen in Paris! 




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Meet the Hosts of Saturday Sneak Peek:


Marissa @ Reading List

Marissa, writes book reviews from a variety of genres and  shares thoughts on motherhood & life on Reading List. She loves to see what others are reading to grow her to-read list.  Marissa also enjoys photography and a new journal to fill. 

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Alyssa reads a variety of genres and writes about it at Sunrise Avenue. She is always looking for new bookish friends and recs'! Besides reading, Alyssa loves to bake and anything Doctor Who.


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Karen is a reading teacher who loves to listen to books as she commutes to and from work. She prefers crime thrillers and mysteries but enjoys a good book from any genre. She blogs about her life as a wife and mom at Dino Hero Mommy.






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• Pick up whatever book you are reading (non-fiction, fiction, children's... really the sky is the limit)
• Open to any page you have already read
• Share a few “teaser” sentences from somewhere on that page - make it interesting without flipping to a ton of different pages. 
 BE CAREFUL NOT TO INCLUDE SPOILERS! (make sure that what you share doesn’t give too much away -- You don’t want to ruin the book for others!)
• Share the title & author, too, so we can all add your book to our To-Be-Read lists!

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Check out my quick review too  


One Paris SummerOne Paris Summer by Denise Grover Swank
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I really enjoyed this one. The story was light and fun. A perfect summer read, nice and quick.


This was a fun read. I highly recommend it to anyone looking for a light romantic teen piece. Of course, there is no reason why adults can't enjoy this flashback of puppy love during a summer vacation. It is probably a little predictable, but there is no doubt you will get swept up in Sophie's life. Her summer in Paris is full of stress and disappointment, yet, she finds a way to make her wishes come true.

Denise Grover Swank has done a marvelous job of writing a clean summer story that is appropriate for younger teens as well, which in this day and age, that is not common.

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Thursday

The Cozy Reading Spot #155

Welcome to Cozy Reading Spot! 

This is your chance to share your posts, and then grab your favorite drink to curl up with and read other's posts.  You are welcome to share posts that tell us what has been on your heart, mind and bookshelves - yes that means just about anything goes.  As book lovers, we love to read, so share something for us to read today!




Community Freebie: August

This month freebie is for the parents out there who are getting ready for their kiddos to get back into the school routine.  It can be a hard shift back into routine for school compared to summer. For us that means that mornings need to be slightly more structured. 

If you are like me, then you might be into this month's freebie.  It's a super simply Morning Routine chart. In the link there will be four options in different colors. Two will be filled out, two will be blank so you can personalize it.  We will be putting these routines into paper protectors and using a dry-erase marker to cross off each step in the mornings. 

This is a freebie for the Cozy Reading Spot community. All you have to do is leave your email in the community banner that is at the top of the page, or use that annoying pop up.  You will receive a weekly email with a reminder of the link up. In that email will be the link to your freebie!  YAY!

Here's to calm start to the 2016 school year!

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Last Week's Features

Marissa's Favorite

My favorite link from last week was by Linda from Being Woven: Integrity.  While her post is sure to encourage and inspire you, I love the image she has at the top of the post. 










Most Popular

The most popular link from last week was by Amanda from Sicily's Heart & Home: Finding your perfect approach to early childhood education. It is that time of year again, and it's always nice to hear from mama's about their teaching methods, mostly because it helps us to realize every family is different.  This is a great read for homeschooling parents as well as out-of-home school families. 











Please link up all you've got!  

This is an open link up, not just a book link up...

There are just a few small requests I have. 
  • Please link to a direct post, and not just your home page.
  • I wish I didn't have to say this, but please keep it clean. I know books & posts can range the gamut on adult content, but please keep your posts and images clean for this one. 
  • Try to stop by another link and say hi. I know we are all busy blogging, reading and writing, not mention living our lives and keeping up with responsibilities - however, what makes the link up so fun is having new people visit your blog!  So spread the love and hop to at least one link for each link you leave.
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Monday

Under a Million Stars A Book Review

Under a Million Stars

Rita Branches



I remember reading The Notebook in high school before the movie came out. It was such a sweet story, so when the movie was released I was all about it.  I went with a bunch of my friends. I still love it. It still chokes me up, fills my heart, and reminds me that love stories are unique and can go through ups and downs.

Where you a fan?  Do you like similar love stories?

Well when a little birdie mentioned that this new book was the epic love saga similar to the Notebook without being the same story, I was all about it.

It did not disappoint.



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Story Overview 


Charlotte's life was zooming towards her dreams when her world came crashing down. Suddenly she was orphaned and could no longer even remember how to breathe. She could not even sit down to play the piano, the source of her future, at least so she thought. Without even the support of her best friend, Jacob, to help her through she collapsed in on herself.

Then when she had to move in with the Parker's, the family her parents named as her new guardians, life got more difficult. Jacob used to be her best friend, but something happened, and almost overnight he stopped speaking to her.  Of course, she had figured out how to handle that, Kylie was her new best friend, and the two of them could make it through anything... well before. 

Jacob had discovered a family secret that was tearing him apart. He wanted to tell Charlie but knew it would hurt her. Now, after a couple of years of playing it cool, dying a little inside each day, having her move into his home was going to be the end. He had to find a way out. 

Watching these two ex-best friends struggle to find the best path for them makes this a story that will keep you turning pages. 

Personal Likes


I loved the characters in this book. Charlie is a struggling girl, as you would expect, after losing her whole family. But she still is strong enough to keep trying, to allow her feelings a chance to escape even if it is only in the privacy of her room.  She knows her heart and clings to the hope that tomorrow must be better. Jacob is a teen boy who has no idea how to keep his family together with the knowledge that could tear it all apart.  It was refreshing to see his inner struggle to be strong, yet sensitive.

The pace of this story is wonderful.  It's just fast enough that you want to keep reading and knowing more.  Branches has done a wonderful job of creating a story that pulls you in completely.  You care about Charlie and Jacob and hope they could figure out a way to make it in this new reality.


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Personal Dislikes


I am not really a fan of this pattern in teen clean romances of seeking comfort from someone of the opposite gender during the night. Granted, this is a clean teen romance, but there is no need for all night snuggling.  I wish there would have been some way for Charlie to go to Mrs Parker with some of her hurt and need for more support.



About the Author


Hi! I'm Rita Branches. I was born and raised in in Portugal and I'm going to independently publish my debut novel in the Spring of 2016, Painting Sky. I am so happy that you decided to take a look at my work. Little bit about myself: along with being a writer, I am also a landscape architect. I started writing to bring 'to life' the stories that my mind created. I LOVE to read. It was and always will be my passion.

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Reading List Rating


five heart rating on Reading List

I have to give this book 5 hearts. I loved this book.  Seriously.  If I had the time I would read it again... maybe I will someday.  I would certainly buy it for friends! 



My Suggested Audience


I do agree that this is a teen appropriate story. There are some kissing, and hugging, and, as I mentioned before, there are a few scenes of sleepovers, that are for the most part clean.  That being said, maybe this is for those 14 and over.

I would not bury this book in the teen section, though.  For anyone who enjoys a sweet clean romance, this would be a wonderful choice. 






Wondering Questions to Consider


Books like this are a wonderful way to allow for conversation with your kids. A chance to say parts of teenage relationships you think would lead to too many physical moments. And a chance to hear from your kids what they think is okay for teens to do inside relationships while in high school.  So if you have a teen girl, this could be a wonderful buddy read.  Ask what she thinks about the love story, what she would want from a boyfriend, what is realistic. 


You can give up be unhappy, or you can fight it accomplish great things... #UnderaMillionStars @RitaBranches @Reading_List1




Are you a Nicholas Sparks, love story, fan? A sucker for a sweet Hallmark movie?  What are your favorites? 

I'd love to hear from you, please leave me a little note!


Marissa @ Reading List



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